Misconceptions about Male Sexuality

2014-09-12

Most of what we take as common sense about men and their sexuality doesn’t actually stand up in the real world. In fact, there are a lot of misconceptions about male sexuality. Abraham Morgentaler, M.D. is well aware of this fact. He is an associate clinical professor of urology at Harvard Medical School, the director of Men’s Health Boston and the author of the book Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex. Both men and women are caught up in the gender stereotypes society places on men and their sexuality. Luckily Morgentaler has been on the case dispelling myths and helping men with their sexuality for 25 years. So the first one, in the title of Morgentaler’s book, is a shocker to some people. Men do fake orgasm. Often they do it for the same reason women do. They don’t want to be embarrassed or disappoint their partner. Having consumed too much alcohol, stress, depression and anxiety can all make it difficult to orgasm. Some people think a man’s orgasm must have produced a result. But that’s not always the case. A man doesn’t have to ejaculate to orgasm.Men who have diabetes or are taking certain medications may ejaculate within the bladder.What’s more, practitioners of tantric sex can orgasm without ejaculation as well.

A common myth is that men are always ready to jump in the sack. For one thing the emotional situation has to be right. For another, as a man gets older his testosterone level drops. What’s more, life’s responsibilities can weigh heavily on his mind. Men who are overly burdened by work-related or relationship-related stress, who have depression, anxiety, are just too worn out or tired may pass on sex. It doesn’t make him less of a man, it only makes him human. Men are often stereotyped as selfish in the bedroom, concerned for their own pleasure over their partners. Over the years in his practice Morgentaler has found that the vast majority of men are focused on pleasing their partner. There are lots of men whose sexual dysfunction is rooted in a negative comment a lover once made about his equipment or bedroom proficiency. Men are sensitive to any negativity attached to sexual performance since our society places one’s very manhood on virility and performance. Lastly, it’s often believed that men naturally have a stronger sex drive than women. Lots of couples deal with a discrepancy in sex drive, and this is negotiated in a way that best fits the couple. But it’s not always the man who is more libidinous. Since women are more communicative about their bedroom needs and desires, a man can feel diminished if his lady has a stronger sex drive. But it’s actually quite common. However, just because her drive is stronger doesn’t make him any less of a man.