Surprising Facts about the Penis

2015-06-30

Most guys are pretty cognizant of what’s going on below their belt buckle. But there are lots of things men don’t know about their equipment, things that will astound you. For one thing, though it is sensitive as anyone who has been kicked between the legs can attest, the penis is also strong. But this very rarely gets highlighted. Just take the example of one strange niche in Kung Foo that involves lifting more weight with one’s flaccid member than a man can normally bench press. Grandmaster Tu Jin-Sheng of Los Angeles is one such practitioner who gained notoriety by hauling a tractor trailer and even an 8,000 pound World War II fighter plane with his penis. Practitioners believe that doing so strengthens the organ, improves sexual functioning and can ward off serious illnesses like diabetes and heart disease. Surprisingly, such practices have not yet become commonplace. Okay, maybe not too surprising. After all, according to two different studies, one out of Cornell University and another out of Michigan State, men’s genitals are just as sensitive as women’s. For men the most sensitive areas are generally the tip and the area just behind the head or glands called the frenulum.

At a certain age men start to focus on erections.But did you know that they have grades? First is larger but not rigid, next hard but not enough for intercourse, then there is firm enough for penetration but not rock solid. Finally there is fully engorged. In the 1990s scientists developed this scale for when they were working on the ED pill Viagra. Today the scale is known as the International Index of Erectile Function. You may be aware of the erections you have during the daytime. But what about when you are asleep? Urologists say healthy men typically have three to five erections over the course of one night. This occurs at the REM level of sleep.One rare disease causes painful erections while sleeping the kind that can wake a man out of a sound sleep. But only 30 cases have been recorded thus far.

Pleasing a Woman with a Micropenis

Lots of men fear being too small to please a woman. Yet, a recent British study found the vast majority of men are average in length and girth. A scant few fall below. But a micropenis is the rarest of all. Keep in mind you can’t tell what size you are erect when you are flaccid. But an erect micropenis is considered to be two inches in length or smaller. Only 0.6 to 1% of men have this condition according to Dr. Leo Doumanian. He’s a reconstructive surgeon at the University of Southern California’s Institute of Urology. To put those numbers in perspective of the 151.4 million men in the U.S., 1.5 million have a micropenis. Unfortunately, TV and other media poke fun at those who are less than endowed. Those men with this particular condition are maligned and their worth and masculinity often brought into question. But for any man with a micropenis, Dr. Doumanian says it isn’t their size that affects their sexual relationships but their feelings of inadequacy.

Those who believe they may lack a certain length or girth or even have a micropenis can still please a woman, be confident and experience the rich, fulfilling sex life they desire.First, one must become comfortable with one’s self. Come to terms with your size. Even celebrate it. If you are confident in the bedroom, pay lots of attention to your partner, focus on her wants, needs and desires and give her lots of extended foreplay, chances are she will consider you an exceptional lover. Realize that the vast majority of women don’t reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse. Work on your oral and digital skills to bring your lover to the realm of pure bliss. Next, consider what positions will give you an advantage during intercourse. Pick positions with deeper penetration.Place a pillow under her buttocks instead of regular missionary for instance. Throughout the process make her laugh, make her feel comfortable, go slow, seduce her and give her the time of her life. You’ll be her best lover no matter your size.

Don’t Rush to Put on a Condom

2015-06-04

Lots of times, when things are getting hot and heavy we scramble to get the condom and put it on. We are caught up in the heat of the moment. But rushing like that also increases the chances of something going wrong. According to one study it also increases the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). That’s due to the condom being put on wrong causing a rip, tear or even slippage. 60% of women reported one of these problems due to a rush to get the condom on. Those couples who moved too quickly were also less likely to use a condom the entire time. Dr. Lydia Shrier was the lead researcher in this study. She hails from both Boston Children’s Hospital and Harvard Medical School. Shrier told Reuters that couples should take their time and not rush through the process. If you don’t use a condom the right way, you open yourself up to the possibility of pregnancy or contracting an STI she said, and infections are on the rise.

This study examined the data of 512 men and women in five cities who had visited health clinics known for treating STIs. Ages of participants ranged from 15 to 65. These participants recorded their sexual habits in a diary for 180 days. In total, this led to 8,856 recorded instances of heterosexual intercourse. Each one included the use of a condom. 5% of the time participants encountered a slip, rip or tear. But this occurred only 2-3% of the time when partners didn’t rush. Furthermore 14% of those who weren’t rushed used a condom the entire time. 23% of those in a hurry did so. Certainly, no one is saying that the intensity or velocity of hot sex should be tempered. But when the time comes to put on the condom, it pays to take a little pause. Why not make it part of foreplay? There are all kinds of erotic ways one can put it on. You can even have it placed on by your partner. Gaze into each other’s eyes, show yourself off or ask your partner to. You can even engage in a little pillow talk, letting them know what you are going to do as soon as you get the condom on. So you can slow down to put on a condom and let the mood continue at the same time. This way you are both protected as well as turned on.

Can a Lack of Sex Cause Erectile Dysfunction?

Several studies show that men who have more sex are less likely to experience erectile dysfunction. On the negative side, those who have less sex have a higher risk. So can a lack of sex lead to ED? If so, can men limit their risk by engaging in sex and masturbating regularly? One 2008 study out of Europe showed that a lack of sex could lead to impotence. But this is the one and only such study. No other researchers thus far have confirmed these results. The European study published in the American Journal of Medicine, followed 989 male participants. They were in their fifth, sixth and seventh decade of life. Here researchers concluded that sexual activity was akin to exercise in maintaining male potency. Whether or not masturbation helps preserve functioning was not included in this study, only sexual intercourse. Many urologists say that such activities probably help. Intercourse was found to preserve the blood vessels and nerves associated with an erection.

Though a lack of sex is associated with ED, it hasn’t been proven to cause it. Irwin Goldstein, MD is the director of sexual medicine at Alvarado Hospital in San Diego. He told WebMD, “Having sex is good, masturbating is good, but the concept that men have to go out and have sex to preserve erectile function is bogus.” According to the spokesman of the American Urological Association, a lack of sex is generally a consequence of ED rather than the cause. Researchers in the European study admit that those who had good erections and frequent sex may have just had good genes. Having erections seems to be the key factor in being able to have them again in the future. A good sex life and masturbating are fine health-wise. But a lower body weight, exercise, getting good sleep, taking care of any emotional issues such as stress and depression, and controlling diabetes and blood pressure are also important aspects of preserving sexual health.

How to Overcome Lack of Confidence about Penis Size

Our society puts a lot of weight on penis size. Though 85% of men are average, according to a recent British study, the media, internet porn and other sources have pushed men into thinking they need to be huge in order to be significant. In reality, it only takes four inches to satisfy a woman during intercourse. And most don’t orgasm via penetration anyway. Instead, they need clitoral stimulation to reach climax. So size really isn’t the focal concern it seems to be. Yet, many men have difficulty overcoming the lack of confidence about their penis size. Here are some tips on how to make yourself feel more confident and give her the time of her life. First, realize that if used properly, sex experts say a four and a half inch penis can feel just as satisfying as the six inch variety. With this new information, feel confident. If you can’t, fake it until you make it. Chances are if you can turn her on with your confidence, your wit, personality and through wooing her, she will be too busy gushing over you to care about what you are packing.

When the time comes to be intimate together, spend a lot of time getting her in the mood. Most men only make a cursory attempt at foreplay. In fact,warming up a woman is one of the best things you can do. Begin foreplay way before you get into the boudoir.  Give her a long hug.  Romance her. Pay her compliments. Give her a massage. Make her feel good. Then move on to making out with her. Once in the bedroom, slow down. Kiss her and touch her all over. Make her the focus, not you. Find out what kind of pillow talk she prefers and use it. Give her some clitoral stimulation before penetration. You don’t have to reveal yourself to her, especially the first time. In fact, lots of women like to do it in the dark. During intercourse, vary your technique. Utilize positions to make the most out of intercourse. Doggie style, the rabbit, the snake, the antelope and V-formation are all great positions for those who feel they are less endowed.  With the proper strategy and technique you can satisfy any woman no matter what you are packing.

How to get in a Sexy Mood

2015-05-19

Feeling warmth and closeness is essential to keeping your relationship fresh and alive. But you aren’t always in the mood for getting close. Worries, work, stress and other problems often get in the way. Sometimes we’re just too tired to give our partner or our relationship the attention they deserve. So what do you do? How do you get in a sexy mood and warm things up? Here are some ideas on how to get in a sexy mood. For one thing, why not try a little exercise? It doesn’t have to be too strenuous. A decent walk at a medium pace can increase your libido. A half hour on the ellipsis machine can make you feel brand new. Exercise gives you energy and a more positive body image. It will boost your self-esteem too. And what’s sexier than a little confidence? Try stimulating your senses.  Why not put on a sexy scent to charm your lover or just yourself? Wear sensual fabrics that feel amazing while they rub against your body all day. Suede, silk, or satin are great choices. Not only that, but your partner might be so enamored with how soft your garment looks, they’ll want to reach out and touch you. Make it a whole ensemble and they won’t be able to keep their hands off of you!

Why not put on a performance? Dance in your living room to music you love. Belt out your favorite tune on the album. Good music can definitely get you in a sexy mood. Why stop there? Put on a little performance for your lover or even ask them to join in with you. Sometimes in today’s million-mile-a-minute world, we lose focus on other sides of ourselves and what we really like. Getting in tune with what turns you on can be a chance at self-discovery, both to help your lover get more in tune with you, but also just to know about yourself. Why not keep a journal? Have a record of sexy things that happened, or something you saw, smelled, or did that turned you on. Write about your date or your partner. Remind yourself how you really feel about them. Recall some really steamy moments you two shared. Finally, get in touch with the power of touch. When they’re complaining about the traffic jam on the way home from work, reach out and show your concern by holding their hand. After a little while squeeze it and run your thumb over the top of their hand. Or offer them a backrub. Doing something nice for your partner can make them feel better and get them in the mood. And from that you’ll likely get in the mood too.

4 Reasons Women Experience a Lower Sexual Desire than Men

It probably doesn’t come as a surprise that men are up for sex more than women.  This can cause a problem for couples.  It’s not that a woman doesn’t desire or care about sex.  It can be quite the opposite, actually.  However, women especially care about lovemaking in the context of a committed relationship. An assortment of factors can interrupt positive feelings a woman may have towards experiencing sex. Read on to learn of the four reasons you may not be having sex.

Physiological differences

These differences make it more challenging for a woman to want sex, become aroused during sex, and come to climax.  It has been discovered by researchers that testosterone, which in previous days was considered a ‘male’ hormone, is what powers the male and female sex drives.  On top of that…men have a whopping 10 to 20 times more testosterone than women.  Additional hormonal factors may influence a woman’s fluctuation in sex drive over time.

Psychological reasons

Decreased sex drive can be a symptom that comes along with clinical depression, which women are significantly more likely to experience.  Unfortunately, many antidepressants and other drugs used to treat depression lead to a decrease in libido and even prevent orgasms from being achievable.  Sex is an important part of life, so it may be difficult to understand the benefit of a drug lifting depression, yet dampening a part of the human experience that can be so joyful.  Another factor that may interfere with a woman’s sexual desire is past sexual trauma. Women are more likely to have been sexually abused and, even though they desire to be a pleasing lover, they might be experiencing deep fear and shame.

Body image

Women struggle with body image issues more than men, and this can dramatically affect their feelings about sexuality.  Due to a lot of messages in media (magazines, TV, etc.) that give us unrealistic figures by which to compare our bodies, many women believe their bodies are never ‘perfect’ enough. Some women hear about ‘imperfections’ every day from their significant other, while other women may have very supportive partners who find them sexually attractive, but still despise their own bodies.

Lack of energy

It’s true–men do more housework these days–their share and sometimes more.  Yet, studies show that women are still taking on more housework and childcare, overall, even when they have full-time jobs outside of the home.  Dr. John Gottman, author of the book Why Marriages Succeed or Fail says, “Being the sole person in the marriage to clean the toilet is definitely not an aphrodisiac!”  He has conducted extensive research on married couples and found that happier relationships and better sex lives were linked to couples where men did more housework and taking care of children.  That sure is some research that needs to get into the heads of certain men!