Category Archives: Sexual Health

Foods that Help with Premature Ejaculation

Foods that Help with Premature Ejaculation

2015-03-17

One of the most common male sexual problems is premature ejaculation (PE). It can be frustrating, embarrassing and emasculating. There are lots of ways to learn how to delay ejaculation. Kegel exercises, practicing elements of tantric sex, pausing, changing positions and stopping to squeeze gently behind the head of the penis, are some things you can do to elongate performance. There are also medications and other medical treatments for chronic cases. Your diet can play a role. Eating the right foods can help you last longer and in turn give your partner more pleasure. Here are some foods that can inhibit premature ejaculation.Asparagus is one vegetable that suffers a lot of controversy.Some people love it, while others recoil in horror at the mere sight of it. But nutritionists know that it is a potent superfood jam-packed with nutrients, including high levels of vitamin-E and iodine that can improve health including sexual health. Periodically eating asparagus will keep your system running in tiptop condition.

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Blueberries are not only delicious, they are good for you. The round, purplish orbs have properties that dilate the vasculature or blood vessels. Blood vessel restriction due to plaque buildup is the most common cause of sexual dysfunction in men. This boost may also help you feel more confident and so last longer. Some are even calling blueberries nature’s “little blue pill.” Certainly no one eats cloves outright. But they are a great addition to baked goods, ham, certain teas (hello chai latte) and more. Cloves have been part of folk medicine for centuries in many different cultures, and one of its properties is male virility. Some men experience PE due to anxiety, particularly performance anxiety. Winter Cherry, also known as Indian Ginseng, can calm you, and thus alleviate anxiety.Regular ginseng has also been said to improve male sexual performance. As always, it’s important to address any medical concerns such as chronic PE with your physician.

The worst things you can while getting it on!

The worst things you can while getting it on!

The human mating ritual is a subtle dance and the truth is that most guys have two left feet. One wrong move can have you stepping on her toes, ending things before they even begin. You have to learn the moves right if you want to go all the way. Here are the worst things you can do when getting it on. The truth is we’re all guilty of these at one time or another. Avoid these moves and see your sex life improve. The first mistake guys generally make is not going with the program. The last thing you want to do once you got her all warmed up and she’s purring like a vintage Mustang, is to argue with her about the lights being on or off, drawing the curtains or wearing a condom. Women are the pickier of the species. You need to be flexible in consequence. Submit to her requests and you’ll be getting the green light much more often. If you do stop the proceedings and begin an argument you might not just end your chances, you may have a fight on your hands too. Once things are physical keep the talk to a minimum. Sure some women like dirty talk. But use phrases few and far between. Or else you risk turning her off. Gestures are far more powerful than words. Good eye contact can be sexy too.

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A woman turns her back to her partner as the man tries to talk to her while they argue

You can serenade her as part of your overall seduction scheme. But no matter how many movies you’ve seen that portrays the latter, singing during sex is an absolute mood killer. If you own a business and want repeat business your best chance is to learn what their needs, wants and desires are and go about fulfilling them. The same goes for having good sex. Whatever stage your relationship is in, go about fulfilling your partner’s needs first. Listen carefully to what they like and what they don’t. While engaged in foreplay or during the actual act listen carefully to what makes them moan, curl their toes, or scream out the name of their deity of choice. Also pay attention to what she doesn’t like and avoid those things. Try a number of different moves, strategies and techniques and get her feedback from it. If you go out of your way to fulfill her, she’ll go the extra mile to make you happy. Give her your full and complete attention. If you’re distracted, now isn’t the time to be getting it on. Don’t criticize while things are going on. If she is doing something that hurts, you can gingerly move her on, perhaps nonverbally to another act or doing it in a different way. But don’t criticize her as things are taking shape. Instead, make some genteel suggestions afterward. Perhaps couch them between positive comments during the cuddling phase. Master avoiding these and watch your moves get smoother, and your sex life takeoff.

Dirty Talk on the Phone

Dirty Talk on the Phone

2015-03-04

If you have the right relationship with someone who is sexually liberated and interested in sex, dirty talk on the phone can really enhance your mutual experience. But even with a normal girl, if you think you can’t talk dirty to her, or talk dirty on the phone to her, chances are you’re wrong. The difference is that men are ready to go really quickly. You have to work a woman into the mood. But beyond that, you also have to make her feel emotionally secure with you. Don’t try this too early in the relationship if you are dating someone who is into long-term relationships and wants to be your girlfriend. But in a hookup kind of relationship or a long term relationship it can really make things sizzling hot. One mistake lots of guys make is making the girl think he’s only interested in sex with her. You have to show a general interest first and lead her subtly toward the subject. If you jump right in, she’ll suspect you don’t really want to hear what she has to say, she’ll be annoyed, her guard will be up and your chances will be slim. Instead, talk to her about what she wants to talk about. Wait until the important issues or what happened that day come out and then turn the conversation seemingly innocently in your favor.

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One way to do it is to talk about something you find that’s attractive about her. Compliment her on something unique that you like about her. Just tell her it’s something you were thinking about. Now she’s feeling special and her guard is down. Now trying complimenting something physical about her. Make it something unique about her physique. Her eyes, her smile are good but what about them? Don’t make them general. She’ll think you’ve said this to a hundred girls. “I love the curve of your fingers. When we hold hands, it just feels so right.” Don’t say it if it’s not true. Women have built in b.s. detectors. “I love how your lower lip is so full and pouty, it makes me want to kiss them.” Now this isn’t exactly sexual but we’ve increased the level here. Now she’s going from feeling special to kind of hot. Ask her what she’s wearing now, or better yet what kind of underwear she’s wearing. Ask her how the material feels against her skin. Tell her she makes you think naughty thoughts. When she asks you what explain it to her in a slow, subdued manner resting on every detail. Ask her about her fantasies. What does she want you to do to her? Tell her what you want to do to her. Keep the focus on her. Tell her you want to give her so much pleasure by going down on her or whatever she really likes. Now it’s time to turn this into phone sex, put on the webcam or rush over to her place to fulfill those wild fantasies you’ve both been whispering to one another.

BDSM, is it for you?

BDSM, is it for you?

2015-02-24

Are you interested in exploring the kinkier side of sex but afraid of being labeled a pervert, or some other misinformed stereotype? The truth is BDSM which stands for bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism is gaining popularity and acceptance in contemporary society. This is whipping, spanking, role-play, flogging, tease and denial, bondage and other forms of kinkier bedroom play. BDSM’s biggest gain has been the recent popularity of the book series 50 Shades of Grey among women.  A recent study out of the Netherlands found something astonishing. Those in the BDSM community are healthier psychologically. They had higher indicators of mental health than those that didn’t practice BDSM. That’s because they have better communication skills and are more in tune with their partners. So there isn’t anything wrong with practicing BDSM responsibly with another or other consenting adults. So how do you find out if BDSM is for you? Why not watch some porn that incorporates it. How do you feel about it? Does it turn you on? Ask your partner if they’ve ever tried BDSM or if they are interested in it. Show them some porn and see if it turns you on.

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Visit your local sex shop. Lots of sex shop owners can instruct you on different aspects, outfits, accessories, and more. See if there are any groups in your area. Check out videos online and instructional websites.  SM 101: A Realistic Introduction for Beginner’s by Jay Wiseman is one resource. Another is the website www.kinkacademy.com which has videos in the hundreds regarding everything from proper flogging technique to sex toy operation. Remember that the point is to have fun with your partner, learn more about them and yourself and explore more of your sexuality and theirs. You are going to have to do a lot of talking. Approach the subject by first talking about your partner’s fantasies. See if they have a kinky side. If they don’t bring anything up, ask them. But chances are they’ll have a wild side. Explore some of their fantasies together. Do your best to fulfill them.  Then propose one of yours. See how they feel about it. They may be resistant at first, but warm to the idea. So give your partner time and be patient. Start out slow. Have a safety word you both know and won’t forget. This is the word you use to take you out of whatever scene you are playing. There may be things you want to do that your lover is totally not into. That’s okay. But over time you’ll find that they’ll loosen up more, become more confident and be able to try new things. Don’t feel embarrassed if you want to bring a little kink in the bedroom. Chances are your partner will be excited about the notion.

Countries Most Sexually Satisfied

Countries Most Sexually Satisfied

Though America has come far since the sexual revolution, we are still far behind other countries when it comes to sexual satisfaction. Compared to other countries the U.S. is still very conservative when it comes to sex and sexual issues.  This is thought to have an influence. Nations that aren’t as hung up on sex have a lower teen pregnancy rate, less abortions, more satisfying sex lives and far fewer STDs. Knowledge and being laid back about things, that’s powerful. However, societies that are repressed in other ways don’t always affect the sex lives of the masses. 80% of Russians for instance knock fur-covered boots once a week. But the Russians aren’t the only ones doing it more than we are. Nations overseas have sex 70% more often than Americans. No wonder there’s so much road rage. 48% sexually satisfied is how the good ole U.S. of A. turned up in one survey according to Durex Global Research, the institutional arm to the well-known condom brand. Sexual satisfaction was determined by measuring participant’s satisfaction levels in the areas of mental and physical health, freedom from stress, excitement in the sex life, mutual respect and love and the ability to orgasm. Another study out this year said that socio-economic status also affected sexual satisfaction.

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Switzerland has consistently been ranked the number one most sexually satisfied country in the world. 21% of Swiss rate their sex lives as “excellent.” The number of Swiss who’ve done the dirty deed outdoors is 32%. Switzerland in the midst of all this shagging has one of the lowest rates of teen pregnancy on the globe. It also stands to be known that prostitution is legal in Switzerland. Sex education can begin young, even in kindergarten, and its views on pornography are very free and easy. Still teen pregnancy in the U.S. is higher than Switzerland to the exponent of ten. Next on the list of most fulfilled is Spain where 90% of the populace is sexually satisfied. 25% of the Spanish label self-performance as “excellent.” Sexual satisfaction in Spain increased within the context of a long-term relationship, as opposed to short-term with multiple partners. One of Spain’s hot commodities is nude beaches. The Spanish are also very accepting of homosexuality and gay marriage. 64% of Italians found their sex lives satisfying. The Italians are known all over the world as great lovers. Also all that great wine and food, all that sensuousness makes you and your lover feel sensual. Now Brazilians famous for their outrageous “Miss Bum” competitions are considered the world’s second best lovers, the first on the list are the Spaniards. Sex once a week, 82% of Brazilians said yes please. According to the Durex poll, Nigeria is the most satisfied in all the world, with a whopping 67% saying they were satisfied. Their sessions are also longer, lasting 24 minutes.

Chlamydia Undermines Body’s Defense against Genetic Mutation

Chlamydia Undermines Body’s Defense against Genetic Mutation

Though curable with simple antibiotics, those who have the sexually transmitted infection (STI) Chlamydia trachomatis often show no symptoms. This disease causes havoc infecting 90 million worldwide, 70% of which are women. This STI can cause chronic infections and even impact fertility. For decades researchers have been trying to develop a vaccine, but have come up short. Today, they say they are closer than ever. In fact, a few short years ago an Australian team developed a vaccine for koala bears. That’s good news because Chlamydia is proving increasingly antibiotic resistant. Hopefully, a cure will arrive soon as one recent study found that the disease is even worse than first thought.  Researchers at the Max Planck Institute for Infection Biology in Berlin (MPIIB) have now determined that chlamydia actually allows for gene mutations. The body has normal processes for getting rid of damaged cells. But chlamydia obstructs these processes from taking place for its own survival and replication. Such mutations may lead to cancer.

These bacteria live inside cells and depend upon the host cell for sustenance. The bacteria can also alter the functions of the host cell to favor itself and its growth. But scientists until now have not known the results of such manipulation. Studies have shown an increase in cervical and ovarian cancer, which researchers now believe is linked to the bacteria’s ability to allow mutated genes to carry on without reabsorption. In fact, chlamydia can influence both the genome and epi-genome of cells which can lead to lots of different kinds of cancer. The process in which the body rectifies mutated genes is called DNA Damage Response. This response was impaired in infected cells. Repairs to DNA were prone to errors, leading to the survival of more genetic mutations. Though the DNA was damaged, infected cells continue to multiply. Researchers believe this is the first step of carcinogenesis or how such cancers develop. Knowing this can help them create strategies to halt such cancers right in their tracks.

Tantric Sex for Premature Ejaculation

Tantric Sex for Premature Ejaculation

The most common sexual issue in men is premature ejaculation (PE). Those who have had a testicle removed due to cancer or another condition, in medical terminology known as an orchiectomy, have a higher chance of experiencing PE. Luckily, there are lots of treatment options available. Some men benefit from antidepressants which lessens arousal. Then there are prescription drugs, numbing agents and condoms, and methods such as the start-and-stop method, Kegels and the squeeze method. One natural method is to practice tantric sex or tantric yoga. This is the art of sex through the philosophy of yoga. You may begin by practicing Kundalini yoga. This is a good kind to practice with your partner. It helps with flexibility, muscle control, relaxation and centering one’s self. This will make you more aware of both your own sensations and your partners. Your added perception will help you to focus on your partner and how to fulfill their desires. This form of yoga, like Kegels, may also strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, helping to stave off orgasm. Now you are ready to begin tantric sex.

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The first step is to synchronize your breathing. To do this, sit across from one another looking into each other’s eyes. See if you can harmonize and breathe the same way, inhaling and exhaling at the same time. Practice this for five to ten minutes. Now it is time to incorporate touch. Caress one another’s bodies and talk about what feels good. Maintain eye contact and move into foreplay. Make sure you still breathe in harmony. Go slowly and concentrate on the pleasure you are giving. Ask your partner to tell you what feels good, and do the same. Next, move into penetration. Go slowly. Make it sensual. Exercise mindfulness keeping yourself focused not on your own pleasure but on the moment and everything that’s happening. Keep it slow and remember to breathe deeply. The more you concentrate on your own breathing the longer you will last. Use your pelvic floor muscles to hold back your orgasm. If you believe you are about to climax, take a break. Relax. Change positions or tighten your muscles and breathe deeply. Then carry on. With practice, tantric sex can help couples become closer, increase pleasure and help you to last longer, all at once.

Fight Over ‘Female Viagra’ That’s Been Raging For Years Pits Scientists Against Feminists

Fight Over ‘Female Viagra’ That’s Been Raging For Years Pits Scientists Against Feminists

A pharmaceutical company hoping to develop the female version of Viagra resubmitted its drug for the Food and Drug Administration’s review on Tuesday — representing the latest major development in a years long fight that has pitted scientists against feminists.

This week marks the third time that Sprout Pharmaceuticals has sought FDA approval of flibanserin, a drug that aims to address sexual dysfunction in women. As the Associated Press reports, Sprout’s fight to get its female libido drug on the market “illustrates the complicated politics and unresolved science surrounding women’s sexuality.”

According to a frequently-cited number from a 1999 study in the Journal of the American Medical Association, more than 40 percent of U.S. women suffer from some type of sexual dissatisfaction. That’s what flibanserin wants to address. The medication is frequently referred to as the “little pink pill,” since it hopes to provide a female counterbalance to Viagra’s “little blue pill” that was first approved in 1998.

But FDA officials have so far declined to approve flibanserin for mass production because of concerns over its side effects, like levels of dizziness and drowsiness that could impair driving. Experts have also suggested that it isn’t effective enough to justify its potential risks. Critics, meanwhile, have accused the agency of gender bias, saying there are already more than 20 drugs on the market to treat male sexual dysfunction and the FDA’sreluctance to approve a drug for women suggests an implicit discomfortwith women taking control over their sexuality.

“We live in a culture that has historically discounted the importance of sexual pleasure and sexual desire for women,” Terry O’Neill, the president of the National Organization for Women, told NPR this week. “And I fear that it’s that cultural attitude that men’s sexual health is extremely important, but women’s sexual health is not so important. That’s the cultural attitude that I want to be sure the FDA has not, maybe unconsciously, imported into its deliberative process.”

Last year, along with several women’s health nonprofit groups, Sprout Pharmaceuticals launched a high-profile advocacy campaign — Even the Score — to push back on FDA officials in explicitly feminist terms. O’Neill is one of the partners in that effort.

Even the Score has been circulating a petition declaring that “treatments for women’s sexual dysfunction seem to be held to a different standard for approval at the FDA.” Several U.S. lawmakers — including Reps. Debbie Wasserman Schultz (D-FL) and Louise Slaughter (D-NY) — have added their voices to the criticism, writing a letter to the FDA urging the agency to use “careful review employing the same standards of consideration given to the approved drugs for men in your risk/benefit analysis.”

People on the other side of the issue disagree, saying that it’s unnecessary and potentially even irresponsible to market a drug that claims to help women who are struggling with low libidos. Some behavioral health experts argue that women’s sexuality is too complex to be regulated with a pill, and the pharmaceutical industry is more interested in its own profits than in finding real solutions to nuanced sexual health issues.

“There’s really been a move toward medicalizing normal human experience,” Adriane Fugh-Berman, a Georgetown University professor who studies the influence of drug companies’ marketing practices on the medical profession, told NPR. “And while there are certainly some women who have very troublesome symptoms of low libido, it’s not at all clear that medication is a good answer for them.”

But proponents of the “pink pill” say that there’s been a concerted effort to downplay the number of women struggling with sexual dissatisfaction, even though there’s some evidence that it’s linked to issues with the neurotransmitters dopamine and norepinephrine. According to a recent review of the research published in the Atlantic, several studies have found that women diagnosed with Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD) — women who have an “emotionally distressing” lack of arousal — have different brain activity, compared to the women who don’t have that disorder, when they’re shown sexually explicit images.

The FDA, which has been headed by a woman for the past six years, has repeatedly denied any gender bias in the agency’s decisions about flibanserin. It has also taken some steps to address the ongoing criticism in this area. This past fall, the FDA held a two-day conference dedicated to the issues standing in the way of a drug treatment for female sexual dysfunction.

But the debate isn’t likely to die down anytime soon. As part of its media push around the decision to resubmit flibanserin, officials at Sprout Pharmaceuticals have beenconnectingmembers of the media with women who say that they’re struggled with the consequences of sexual dysfunction, and desperately need their own version of Viagra.

“It’s got to be men making these decisions,” one of those women, Cara, who participated in a trial to test out flibanserin, told Marie Claire. “If it were women, this thing would’ve been on the market years ago.”

‘No research to link sex education to pornography’

‘No research to link sex education to pornography’

2015-02-17

 There is no research linking sex education and pornography but “explicit” sex education could actually stimulate teenagers and excite them to know more, according to experts.

This is the opinion of psychologists following the statement made yesterday by PAS Ulama wing information chief Datuk Dr Mohd Khairuddin Aman Razali at-Takiri, who said the government’s plan to introduce sex education in secondary school next year would cause youths to watch pornography.

He proposed “Islamic sex education” and teaching of abstinence instead.

The PAS cleric made the comment after Women, Family and Community Development Minister Datuk Seri Rohani Karim’s said a new syllabus will be introduced for boys aged 16 years and above next year to increase awareness on reproductive and social health topics.

Universiti Putra Malaysia Social Science and Development senior lecturer, Dr Hanina Hamsan, said she was not aware of what the new syllabus looked like but she imagined it would be “visual”.

“We might actually stimulate them (teenagers) by showing them pictures and graphic examples,” she said. “At this age, teenagers’ biological and sexual functions are active, so teaching them sex education could make them more curious to know more and explore themselves.”

She said sex education could be implemented depending on the content of syllabus and the target groups.

“If it is teaching sexual health. then go ahead. However, if it is more towards sex, we have to be careful. Some teenagers from rural areas are naive about sex, so exposing them could spark their curiosity.”

Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia Faculty of Social Sciences and Humanities senior lecturer and developmental psychologist, Dr Suzana Mohd Hoesni, echoed this view, saying “too explicit” sex education, such as in the United States – where students are shown how to put on a condom, could encourage teenagers to try it out.

“It depends on the context and how the syllabus will be taught,” she said.

However, sex education proponents and sexual health experts believe PAS’s statement is outright ludicrous.

“Why would he connect sex education with pornography?” Federation of Reproductive Health Association Malaysia programme services head Lim Hwei Mian said.

“Recently, an article stated Terengganu had the highest number of porn viewers in the country, so this goes on without proper sex education anyway.

“Therefore, what is the justification for making the statement?”

Lim said sex education teached young people about biology and reproductive health system, and empowering young girls to learn to say no, and not how to have sex.

“we need comprehensive sec education because we need to give young people the correct information.

“Then they will make the right decision and know the consequences of their actions,” she said.

Sex educator June Low asked Mohd Khairuddin to provide peer-reviewed evidence that teens will not watch porn if they are taught Islamic sex education. She also said abstinence-only sex education had been proven not to work time and time again.

Malaysian Association for Adolescent Health secretary Dr Kamarudin Ahmad believes sex education is important because if we did not teach proper sex education, teenagers will look for it elsewhere, such as through the Internet and peer groups, which are dangerous.

However, he said the ministry should consider starting sex education at an earlier age such as pre-school.

“If the ministry would go ahead with the new syllabus for teenagers, they should focus on the implementation and also train the teachers, so that the delivery will be effective.”

Female Libido Pill Fires Up Debate About Women And Sex

Female Libido Pill Fires Up Debate About Women And Sex

For 15 years, Carla Price and her husband’s sex life was great. But then things began to change.

“Before, I would want to have sex,” says Price, who is 50 and lives in central Missouri. “But over the years my sexual desire has just dwindled to nothing.”

Price has no idea why. She’s healthy. She’s not really stressed out about anything. And she’s still totally crazy about her husband.

“It’s not that our relationship got boring,” Price says. “Because it’s actually the opposite — we became closer as we got older together.”

But her lack of interest in sex almost wrecked their marriage.

“It did get to the point where my husband thought that perhaps we just needed to divorce,” she says.

Women like Price, who see their decreasing sex drive as a problem, are at the center of an intense, emotional debate that’s been raging for years over whether the Food and Drug Administration should approve the first drug that claims to boost a woman’s libido.

NPR reached Price through Sprout Pharmaceuticals Inc., the company that makes the drug.

“Men have a number of treatment options for sexual dysfunction, says Cindy Whitehead, Sprout’s CEO. “We haven’t yet gotten to one for women’s most common dysfunction.”

“Up until now,” she says, “the treatment paradigm for women with sexual dysfunction has essentially been: Let’s take a drug that works in men and let’s see if it works in women.”

None of them did. But Sprout’s drug, flibanserin, takes a totally different approach than, say, Viagra. Instead of increasing blood flow to the genitals, flibanserin affects a different part of the body: the brain.

Flibanserin shifts the balance of three key brain chemicals, Whitehead says. The drug, she says, increases “excitatory factors for sex” — dopamine and norepinephrine — and decreases serotonin, which can dampen the sex drive.

But there’s a lot of skepticism about flibanserin. The FDA has rejected it twice, saying there wasn’t much evidence it works. The agency also questioned the drug’s safety, especially with long-term, daily use.

 

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“The combination of … not very robust effectiveness, and the fact that the safety profile had not been really characterized very well at all made us reach that conclusion, that it really wasn’t ready for approval,” says Sandra Kweder, deputy director of the FDA’s Office of New Drugs.

The company acknowledges flibanserin can have side effects, including sleepiness, nausea and dizziness. And there are no results yet, Sprout says, on whether the drug might interfere with the helpful action of Zoloft, Prozac or other SSRI antidepressants, which are thought to work primarily by boosting levels of serotonin in the brain.

But Whitehead argues that flibanserin is safe and says the company’s studies show it can help many women.

“We increase their desire by 53 percent,” she says of study participants. “We decrease their distress by 29 percent, and then they doubled their number of satisfying sexual events.”

Whitehead argues the FDA is holding flibanserin to a higher standard than it uses to evaluate drugs for men. And some women’s rights advocates worry that might be true.

“We live in a culture that has historically discounted the importance of sexual pleasure and sexual desire for women,” says Terry O’Neill, president of the National Organization for Women. “And I fear that it’s that cultural attitude that men’s sexual health is extremely important, but women’s sexual health is not so important. That’s the cultural attitude that I want to be sure the FDA has not, maybe unconsciously, imported into its deliberative process.”

The FDA denies any bias.

“We have taken those concerns very seriously and we think the accusation is truly misplaced,” Kweder says.

Many other women’s health advocates agree with the agency’s caution.

“It doesn’t seem to work very well, if at all, and it’s got some safety concerns that are troubling and haven’t been fully explored,” says Cindy Pearson of the National Women’s Health Network. “So we felt very comfortable saying to the FDA, ‘You know, women want attention, but they want drugs that work. And this doesn’t seem to be one of them.’ ”

Others argue that the campaign for flibanserin is oversimplifying female sexuality. And many women (and men) who experience a waning libido at midlife don’t see it as a problem.

“The misrepresentation that everybody should be having it — needs to have it, wants to have it, has a problem if they don’t have it — is to change, really, what sexuality isinto more of a medical thing,” says Leonore Tiefer, a psychologist at New York University. “I think that’s a terrible direction for knowledge, for understanding, for society.”

Some say Sprout’s campaign is part of a bigger trend by the pharmaceutical industry to turn everything into a disease that needs a pill.

“There’s really been a move toward medicalizing normal human experience,” saysAdriane Fugh-Berman, who studies drug companies at Georgetown University. “And while there are certainly some women who have very troublesome symptoms of low libido, it’s not at all clear that medication is a good answer for them.”

A low libido may be a symptom of fluctuating hormones or of some health problem that needs attention. Some women may just be in a bad relationship. For others, therapy might be the answer.

Carla Price says she would like to try flibanserin. Marriage counseling and a hormonal cream have helped, she says. But not enough.

“Even though it’s better, it’s not perfect,” she says. “I would gladly take risks of side effects to keep my marriage and my relationship.”

Sprout says the company plans to submit some new studies soon that it hopes will finally convince the FDA to approve the first drug to boost a woman’s libido.